So my friends were over at my house for a game night, and one of them, who will remain nameless, decides it is a good idea to slight my religion and pick up a hymn book we have laying around and say "so Gary which of these is your favorite, do you sing them in the car, do you bring it around?" in a mocking tone of voice. also while I am trying to clean up the guys are saying "so when are we starting, I am getting impatient, mormons are slow, etc"
so what I wanted to ask of the readers of my blog is this- Is it ok to lambaste someone, and their beliefs when that person and their family have offered their house to you for a night, when no other house is available? this might be tolerable once, but it has happened numerous times, and I wondered how to ask them politely to not do that, without them belittling me even more for it.
Any suggestions?
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ReplyDeleteYou've just got to stand up for yourself, Gary. Understand that some of these friends may not understand the boundary between fun a ridicule, but be firm in your response. If something makes you upset or uncomfortable, especially when you have given up your home to host an event, speak up. If something is disrespectful, let them know. Don't feel like you have to respond directly to the comments or defend yourself, just put a stop to them. I've never lost friends this way. It's a little awkward at the time, but makes for more enjoyable times in the future. If this person doesn't stop, then don't invite him over again until he starts showing some respect.